Photo by Melinda Green When the Supreme Court took up the issue of gay marriage last month, Justice Antonin Scalia claimed that experts debate whether same-sex parents are bad for children. Siegel, a School of Medicine professor of pediatrics, coauthored a reportpublished by the American Academy of Pediatrics the week before the court case, arguing that three decades of research concur that kids of gay parents are doing just fine.
Print this Article One of the main worries many parents have after their child comes out is the reaction of their peers and even the adults at school.
Schools vary greatly in their attitudes towards gay, lesbian, and bisexual teens. Some school atmospheres are very accepting, and teens with any sexual orientation find it easy to find friends and thrive.
Others are more intolerant and homophobic.
Your teen will likely know what the environment of their school is. They may feel strongly that they want to come out, even if they are expecting harassment from peers, and that is their decision… but it still bears talking about, and planning reactions to any negative attention beforehand.
There are laws, particularly in Washington State, protecting students and requiring that schools ensure a non-hostile environment. If your teen is being bullied because of their sexual orientation, there are many steps you can take to make sure it stops — from speaking with the school to getting legal help from the American Civil Liberties Union.
Many of us grew up in a society that tacitly turned a blind eye to the harassment of people with different sexual orientations, or even encouraged it.
Today, gay marriage is legal in Connecticut. Bullying can have mental and physical health effects on teens ; it needs to stop as soon as possible. Sometimes the offenders are not peers, but adults in the school. Any teacher or school staff who harasses or discriminates against a teen based on sexual orientation or anything else, really needs to be reported to the principal or another supervisory member in the school immediately.
If you feel comfortable with it, you can try talking with the staff member before this step to see if perhaps that will remedy the situation, but if the behavior does not stop- or you meet resistance- go up the chain of command.
If they are not responsive, this is illegal.
School is an important place for teens, not just academically but socially and emotionally. Ideally, the school would immediately recognize problems and take steps to ensure a safe and nurturing environment, but often teens need their parents to advocate for them.
You have a vital role in ensuring that your teen is able to flourish in their school environment. Make sure your teen knows their rights, and talks to you if they are being infringed or ignored.
Any other tips for dealing with harassment, stories of school responses, or advice for parents whose teens are being bullied are welcome!
What have you run into?Lesbians and gay men bring children into their lives in a number of ways. In lesbian couples, frequently, one partner gives birth to a child and the other partner -- the second parent -- becomes a legal parent through second parent or stepparent adoption, if that's permitted in the state where they.
Lesbian mothers are similar to gay fathers in their parenting styles and experiences but may differ in how parenting is assumed, i.e., willfully choosing and planning via artificial insemination or adoption. LGBT Adoption Statistics. Of the , same-sex couple households in the United States, , have children.
Some people say that children need both a mother and a father to raise them, but there are many others who believe that gender does not matter when parenting. LGBT parenting refers to lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people raising one or more children as parents or foster care parents.
This includes: children raised by same-sex couples (same-sex parenting), children raised by single LGBT parents, and children raised by . Gay Parent Magazine (GPM) can help you answer questions about same sex and LGBTQ parenting.
GPM is an award winning bound newsprint magazine featuring personal stories of LGBT parents from across the country and around the world - we take you into their homes. Gay and Lesbian Parents. I am gay. Should I worry how this will affect my children?
Millions of children have one or more gay and/or lesbian parents. For some children, having a gay or lesbian parent is not a big deal. Others may find it hard to have a family that is different from most families.